29 September 2014

Dafka

poverty porn….

it’s a term that’s been thrown around a lot lately.

there are a lot of things that enrage me…that make my stomach turn and that get me on a soapbox…

the exploitation of children or the people that i live and work with, is at the top of that list.

however, when these two words are used together…there is no soapbox that can contain my rage…that can express the distain i have for the term or can encompass the perpetual harm caused by this line of thinking.

not only does this term make poverty a “dirty” word…it makes the individual in the photograph a “dirty” individual.

beyond that…it desensitizes us to the very real issue of….exploitation.

i very much dislike all of those things….to say the least.

so…

…i am left with a choice.

i could rage and rage…and then rage some more.

i could try to find a way to shock the world into thinking and understanding with a different mind….and into seeing with a new heart.

i could do that…

you all know that 90 % of my spirit wants to do that!

but i could also make a different choice…

i could choose love.

i could get on my soapbox and ask us all to engage in the very thing that this world lacks enough of….

love.

i could choose to collapse judgment. i could choose to dialogue. i could choose to embrace diversity rather than burn it to the ground.

i could choose to be better than i am.

i could choose jesus.


oh, jesus…give me the strength to always choose love…to always choose you.



a couple weeks ago, reimagine haiti released a photograph of a beautiful little girl with the words, “reimagine poverty.” we stated that we were going to spend the month of september redefining poverty and attempting to change the way the world sees those living it.




there was no financial plea, only an invitation to get involved and learn ways to make a difference.

this barefoot little girl stood with stunning grace and immeasurable intensity in the middle of a dirt road that, speaks not only to her physical journey but, represents the road that god has laid out before her….

one of purpose and intent.

the dress she is wearing comes nowhere near american standards…her hair is disheveled and she is not smiling.

she is beautiful.

she also has a name….

dafka is 3 years old…she lives in baie d’orange with her mama and five siblings.

dafka’s daddy works on a bus that travels between port au prince and jacmel…with this money he is able to send her school age sibling’s to school.

this dress is the only dress she owns, but it is her own and she wears it with elegance and pride…

dafka has one pair of shoes and she saves them for church. she doesn’t know that she should be sad to play barefoot…unless we tell her.

so we don’t.

when she plays, her laughter fills the mountainside with pure, uninhibited joy.

dafka, like every child, has a name, has a story and has a future.

more importantly, every child has infinite value and purpose in the eyes of our creator.

to “reimagine” poverty, is to see dafka through his eyes and to search our hearts….

when was the last time we filled the mountainside with pure, uninhibited joy?

two weeks after this photo was released, our media/communications guru and the woman that has poured her heart into these images, wrote a blog to expound upon our vision and released the next image:

i literally cried when i read it…this was the heart of reimagine haiti.

i will write about maria another day…for now, i will simply say that i am honored to work with a woman so fearless…a woman who is willing to speak truth…no matter how uncomfortable it makes us.

today…this:

poverty…since when did “poverty” become a dirty word?

since when did the idea of poverty become offensive?

and since when did we decide that people living in poverty are “less than,” or to “be pitied?”

if we walk far enough back on that red-dirt road…. we will find ourselves standing in a little stable, in another little village, with another little girl….

this little girl…who likely also had on a dirty dress and no shoes…happened to give birth to a king.

his name was jesus.

she laid him in the best bed she could find…one that only moments before had been the feeding trough for the nearby goats and donkeys.

this king grew up the son of a carpenter…playing on dirt roads (most likely barefoot).

i am willing to bet that he was rarely, if ever, clean.

when jesus looks at dafka, what does he see??

does he see a pornographic image?

an exploited child that needs to be pitied?

does he see the word, “poverty,” and label her as “unclean” because of it?

no…

i would venture to say that he sees his sister…his playmate…his child…

himself.

we have been conditioned to aspire to something more than material poverty….to work hard and climb to the top.

but this is not what we were created for.

we were created to emulate our savior….

and he commanded us to aspire to “less.”

in our quest to climb to the top…we have hit the bottom.

in our quest to not see color, to not see gender , to not see class….

we have created a world that is spiritually poor.

creation is full of beauty, including the diversity of color, class, size, shape, gender, etc….

why do we waste our time attempting to make ourselves blind to it….when he who created it has commanded us to celebrate it??

here’s my challenge to us all…

to open our eyes, our ears and our hearts.

to stop closing our eyes to that which makes us uncomfortable but to start embracing it.

to stop trying to paint our world over in one shade of gray…but to open our eyes to the vibrant color of creation.

to stop trying to abolish material poverty and start trying to abolish spiritual poverty.

to stop using terms that are shocking but start living in away that is shocking….

at the end of the day, we all have a choice.

will we stand?

will we celebrate?

will we see dafka for who she is and not what she has?

will we reimagine poverty….and reimagine this world?

will we change the course of history?

will we start a revolution?















23 September 2014

marriage is like an electrical wire


today is a good day!

it was on this day, three years ago, that i walked…barefoot…down an aisle and into the arms of my soul mate.

yes… i said, “soul mate.”

we have not exactly had the typical newlywed journey….at all.

but…the past three years have taught us so much about each other, about marriage, about service and about jesus…it has not always been easy but i wouldn’t trade our journey for anything.

if you think of people on a series of spectrums, (liberal/conservative, introvert/extrovert, global/local thinkers, auditory/visual, right/left brained, etc.), jason and i are about as opposite as two human beings can get.

on paper, that’s great!

our differences should balance each other out…like a beautiful dance.

in real life, we have often times ended up feeling like we are in the middle of a train wreck…not a fairytale ballet.
 
we haved learned this….

without jesus, we don’t balance out.

without jesus, there is no dance.

without jesus…

we will fail.

just like jesus wants to be the center of our individual lives…he wants to be the center of our marriage.

he has to be the center.

when we allow jesus to be our music and to move our feet…we have balance and the dance is beautiful.

the analogy of a braid is often used to represent jesus being ever present in a marriage.

what jason and i have learned is that maybe an electrical cord is a better image…not as pretty…but more accurate.

yes, jason and i are “braided together” with jesus…but we have to continually cover that braid in prayer to make sure that those strands don’t separate.

holy spirit, be ever present…let not our braid unravel.

we are still babies starting out on this journey and we are just starting to figure out how to walk….i am so blessed and so honored to be learning alongside the one that my soul loves.

three years ago, i said these words to jason as we joined our lives forever.

today, i repeat them as we continue our journey together…always together.

jason…

over the course of my journey to get here today, i have had several different thoughts and beliefs concerning the idea of “soul mates.”

…at times i have thought them to be a myth and at times a reality…

however…it seems the older i got, the more i doubted that a soul mate might be part of my reality.

then…out of nowhere

there. you. were.

and miraculously, all of my jaded ideas and beliefs were changed.

i know with everything i am that when god handcrafted my soul, he knew that it would find its match in yours…and that when it did, he would use you to teach me his definition of what soul mates truly are…

while i used to think that soul mates would run to the ends of the earth for each other…you have taught me that soul mates run beside each other and carry one another when they are too tired to go on.

while i used to think that soul mates would turn their lives upside down for each other…you have taught me that soul mates provide a safe and peaceful place for each other in this fallen and chaotic world.

and most importantly, jason….

while i used to think that soul mates were pre-ordained to be together and pre-destined to fall in love…you have taught me that true soul mates choose each other…

every. single. day.

they are not bound together by love…. rather, they give their love

…of their own free will.

so…my sweet, sweet jason….

having learned all these things…i stand here today (or i post this today)…before you, the people we love the most (and the entire internet) and our creator and i make to you these vows (again):

i vow to run beside you.

rain or shine…smooth terrain or rocky.

i do not know what god has in store for us…i do know i am ready to face it head on…hand-in-hand…with you.

i vow to be your safe place.

not only trusting your love for me but meeting your thoughts…your words…and your emotions with unconditional love, grace and truth.

i will stand beside you.

support you.

pray with you.

and encourage you…

….in all of the big, life changing stuff and in the seemingly little, everyday stuff.

i vow to never hold back my love but to give it to you freely…

and jason,

i vow to choose you…every single day god gives us together on this earth.

from this day forward…

you are my forever and i will be your always.

go team us!

i love you, sonjay….more with every breath i take. happy anniversary…thank you for choosing me.


xoxo,


elu